November 18, 2017 was the BEST. DAY. EVER. I got engaged to my best friend, got to explore the best city on earth – NYC, and see Spongebob on broadway… like WHAT?!?! You can read all about our engagement HERE!!!
I wanted to write a little bit about wedding planning as a medical student (and planning a wedding from a different state) so that I could potentially help someone out there during this VERY EXCITING TIME 🙂
Wedding planning is obviously stressful. Being a medical student is obviously stressful. Doing both at the same time? Actually manageable. Below are some tips to make the planning have as little stress as possible 🙂
(if you just want to see cute pictures from all things wedding planning, scroll below!)
- talk with you partner about your must haves and must have nots right away!
- literally on the way home from NYC, I had my laptop out and Jason and I started planning. We initially wanted a small wedding (LOL my family alone is 92 people) and decided on two times of the year that were optimal for our schedules.
- it’s a good idea to have these covered from day one so that it is obvious what is important to each person.
- a random must not for me is I don’t want country music! A must have was ceremony and reception at same venue!
- talk to your deans about best time to have a wedding!
- lots of medical students get married during medical school! And your deans might have input into what time of the year has worked the best for previous students.
- I chose to get married in between third and fourth year for a bunch of reasons, but other options that were suggested include the winter break of fourth year or right after graduation!
- talk with the people who may be financially supporting this wedding (just you and your partner, parents, grandparents, etc)
- it’s important to set up a budget fast so you know what things you must accommodate and what things you can splurge on.
- Jason and I put a ton of emphasis on having an amazing photographer since pictures are so important to us – hence why we invested in Allison at ThisLovelyLight.com!
- Our parents have been extremely supportive (which is so lucky and fortunate since both Jason and I are students with a $0 income). Jason and I are paying for the photographer and videographer ourselves, and parents are splitting the rest.
- sign up for a wedding website account like Theknot.com or weddingwire.com.
- both of these sites have amazing checklists to keep the planning on time and in check!
- they also offer resources with a bunch of tips ranging from wedding party favor ideas to how to do a seating chart!
- don’t forget to create a wedding website that can share hotel information, registry information, etc!
- take advantage of breaks from school to do the majority of your planning!
- after getting engaged near Thanksgiving, I had used Thanksgiving break to email venues, set up venue tours for during Christmas break, set up meeting with photographers during Christmas break, etc.
- I had gotten the huge things (date, venue, food, and photographer) done and out of the way within a month and a half!!
- spring break, I tackled DJ, bridesmaid dresses, and videographer!
- summer break (after step), I took engagement pictures, got my wedding dress, and found a florist!
- use wedding planning as your study break
- after getting engaged, all I wanted to do was go on Pinterest and dream up of the perfect wedding. IT WAS SO DISTRACTING. I quickly realized I needed to prioritize school but keep the fun wedding planning as timed breaks.
- I would advise not wedding planning before bed because my mind could not turn off from all the ideas popping in and out (LOL)
- remember that your life outside of med school is so extremely important!!!
- celebrate being engaged any chance you can! love the process of wedding planning while studying to have the best career ever!
- it might be overwhelming at first, but remember your life and happiness is more important than a test 🙂
Below are some pictures from all the fun of wedding planning!